Abuse doesn't always leave brusies. Sometimes it leaves silence. * You are brave. You are strong and You are so loved in my space. *
A LOVE LETTER TO YOU THE SURVIVOR
Hey You.
Welcome
to your
Rebuild.
You are not starting over.
You are starting from strength.
Whether you are living in, leaving or rebuilding from domestic violence and abuse - there is something here for you.
We meet you exactly where you are.
No rush. No judgement.
Just us walking beside you.
DEAR WILD ONE
You are not broken.
You are not imagining it.
You are not alone.
If you're reading this, something inside you is shifting. Maybe it's fear, maybe it's hope, maybe it's both. But whatever brought you here — I want you to know this: nothing about your story makes you weak. Nothing about your survival makes you hard to love. And nothing you've been through has taken away your worth.
Lauren Jane created Find My Wild because she stood exactly where you're standing right now — the crossroads between "I can't stay" and "I don't know how to leave." We know how dark it can feel. We know how lonely it seems. And we also know what happens when you take that first step toward yourself.
This is not about fixing you — because you are not broken.
This is about guiding you back home to yourself. To your safety. To your peace. To your freedom.
Love, Lauren (Loz) 🤍🦋
WHAT YOU MIGHT BE CARRYING
Whatever you are
feeling.
is valid.
Survivors carry a weight that most people cannot see. None of these feelings make you weak. Every single one makes perfect sense given what you have been through.
01
SHAME
"How did I let this happen?"
Survivors often carry deep shame, believing the abuse reflects their worth — not the abuser's actions. It doesn't. It never did.
02
GUILT
"I should stay for the kids, shouldn't I?"
Survivors may blame themselves for staying, for leaving, or for the impact on others. None of this is your fault.
03
CONFUSION
"Was it really abuse?"
Many survivors struggle to label their experience — especially when abuse is psychological, financial, or emotional. It was real.
04
FEAR
"What if they find me?"
Fear of retaliation, instability, and starting over can feel overwhelming — especially when children or finances are involved.
05
GRIEF
"I lost who I was"
Even in abusive situations, there is grief — for the relationship, for time lost, for the life that could have been.
THE REALITY
This is happening
everywhere.
1 in 4
Women have experienced violence by a current or former partner (AIHW, 2023)
1 in 2
Victim-survivors
do not report their experience to police
7
Average
attempts a survivor
makes before leaving for good
1 in 13
Men have experienced violence by a current or former partner (AIHW, 2023)
50+ %
Women seeking homelessness support cite DV as the primary cause
90%
Of domestic violence situations involve financial abuse
YOUR STARTER KIT
The Find My Wild
Starter kit.
When you are in the middle of it, the world can feel completely overwhelming. This kit is your first step — free, downloadable, and built from lived experience.
GROUNDING PRACTICES — SOMATIC PROMPTS
Right now, in this moment
01 One hand on heart, one on belly — feel the rise and fall.
You are here. You are breathing. You are alive.
02 Push your feet firmly into the ground and say out loud:
"I am here. I am safe." Your body believes what your voice tells it.
03 Name 5 things you can see.
4 you can touch. 3 you can hear. 2 you can smell. 1 you can taste.
You are present.
